Remember this is temporary. I've seen a lot of people going down the rabbit hole of "this will never end" and I'm here to remind you while it's been a long few weeks, this will end. It's valid to feel all the feelings, but there's a difference between feeling your feelings and jumping in a hole with them you don't ever intend to get out of.
Avoid the spiral. It's easy to let this consume every part of you and to go down the path of what if's. I saw an IG post from someone who is due in a few weeks to have her baby. In this post, she was putting together her baby’s car seat and stroller and was asking questions like “will I even need the car seat? Should I even put together this stroller meant to take you to school, will you grow up thinking this virtual world is normal?” And so on. And look, I know it’s easy to be scared and to go down the rabbit hole. But it’s been a few weeks. There is no evidence that this tiny BRAND NEW baby will not go to school in 5 years.
Control what you consume. Social media, news media, notifications. You have control over ALL of it. If you don't like the way you feel when you watch the news, you are responsible for turning it off. The news media doesn't have a monopoly on the information, and they control how the information they have is presented. Some media outlets are responsible and unbiased in what they report. Most are not. If you don't like the feeling you get when you scroll through social media, you are responsible for setting limits or deleting the app off your phone for the time being. I promise you will survive without Instagram, and you'll probably even thrive if you feel it's been sucking the life out of you.
Check the story you're telling yourself. I've been spending way too much time on Tik Tok and I've seen soooo many "I'm bored" videos. Look, I know it's hard to not leave. But YOU decide if you are miserable during this or if you're going to make the best of a difficult situation. You can come out of this and have wasted weeks-months over-consuming electronics, food, and alcohol. Or you can come out of this and have learned a new hobby, had a clean house, knowing more about yourself or having read a good story. It's about what you DECIDE to do with this time that's either going to be empowering or dreadful. I'm not sure about you, but I've been longing for some time where I can say no to everything for a few weeks and just BE. I know it's getting long, but the time is going to pass either way. It's up to you for how you spend it and your attitude during this entire thing.
Take control to get out of your funk. I know it can be mentally harder to work from home. I know you want to eat emotionally. I know it's easy to stay in your PJ's and do nothing to get ready. I know it's easy to eat all the things and put off your workouts. I know the excuses make it reallllly easy to ignore the things you know help you to be a better person mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually. Those things aren't going to change, so if you don't like the path you're going down, change it. Your funk isn't going to lift itself and things aren't magically going to get better mentally. Listen to an inspiring book, ted talk, or podcast. Take action. One small step can cascade into a complete change but you have to take the first step.
Remember social distancing is not about you. It's about the high-risk people that you COULD infect without even knowing it. Stay home and isolate with the people you've been with the whole time. The better we follow those guidelines now, the better things will go.
Dwell on the positive. What you look for you will find. If you're looking for the horror you'll find it. You will get swallowed by it. But if you look for the positive you will also find it.
Look for reasons you CAN. If you're one of the naysayers that say this quarantine is not the time for you to get into good habits, check why you're saying that. Because it's easier? Because you have an excuse not to? Take the time and space you need to process what's happening. But this is time passing regardless, and I challenge you to look for reasons why you can. Most of us non-essential workers have much more time on our hands, even if only because we're not commuting. All those things you said you didn't have time for? You now have the tiiiiime! Even 30 minutes a day of working toward something positive is going to make a difference.
Picture yourself a month from now. How do you want to feel? What do you want your health, energy, habits, etc. to look like? Are you currently moving toward that reality or away from it?
Get creative. There are ALWAYS multiple ways to achieve a goal. Your plan A not working out doesn't mean you can't do it. It means it's time to get creative and find a plan B and plan C.
Use this time to get great at your self-care.
Take what YOU need. I counsel groups all day every day on this through my group coaching and it. is. exhausting. I'm talking about this every single day all day, and honestly? It's left me feeling pretty drained. That means for me to take what I need, I'm not taking on other people's fear and emotions, and I am completely in control of the conversations I engage in outside of work. I'm saying no to anything that drains me or forces me to connect outside of those times. Right now, I just don't have the energy. On top of that, I haven't been feeling 100% since getting pregnant and it's been a long almost 18 weeks. That means I'm not even at my normal capacity with energy (mental or physical) and have my own goals to focus on right now too. I know there's a fine line between helping and burnout and I am doing my best to make sure I stay on the "helping" side, or I turn into a ball of anxiety and make everyone else's lives more difficult and significantly less fun.
What things are working for you? Share them on Instagram and tag me (@thebalancedbody_) or comment below! Spreading positivity, light and goodness is the best thing we can do so shine your light!